Singleness: It's a Love/Hate Relationship

            Do you ever have those days where you love being single (to tell you the truth, I can't think of any off the top of my head - but I'm sure they have happened). How about days where being single make you feel down in the dumps (I'm sure we can remember those days more vividly). Singleness can be a love-hate relationship. So, I've decided to get honest, and write down some of the things I love most about being single, and some of the things that I love not-so-much about being single.

Why I LOVE being Single:

- How I am evolving as a person. This past year has been such a year of spiritual and personal growth for me. God has defiantly been using this time to teach and mold me into a woman after His own heart.

- How God is using me to make a difference in this world, regardless of my marital status

- I love my independence and freedom to live my day-to-day life as I see fit.

Why I HATE being Single:

- Sometimes, I get lonely. Yes, it's true. Sometimes being single is lonely.

- How shallow everyone's thoughts are about people who are single. I am not a leper, social outcast or party pooper.


* The biggest comfort for me is that knowing whatever I'm feeling (lonely, disconnected, sad), I know that my Savior felt it all before. He walked this road before me, and it brings me incredible peace to know that I can take everything to Him.

What do you LOVE and HATE about being single?
C'mon ladies - Don't leave me hanging here all alone...

Sorry to Burst Your Bubble, but...

           So...sorry to burst your bubble but "marriage doesn't make you happy, it just makes you married" (Marian Jordan). We as single women are bombarded with images and ideals that marriage really is the cure-all. But, if we're waiting on a relationship to make us happy and fix our life problems, we will be sorely disappointed. 

       Live your life now! God is not withholding happiness from you. It's just that we, in our skewed reality, think that happiness comes from finding a significant other and getting married. 

     I have this notion in my head, and I know that it's right. But then, I pass a couple walking hand-in-hand on the street looking so much in love and so very happy, and that idea goes right out the window! And me? Well I'm sitting home on a Saturday night, renting movies and pizza for one. I believe all of these things, but I still feel as though I'm missing out on something....


Have you struggled with this? Please tell me I'm not the only one!

Just Wait Until I Get Married....

        Have you had that thought that "When I'm married, I'll be ____" or "When I'm married, I'll do _____"? Do you think you'll become more spiritual when you get married? More connected with Christ? Read your bible more? Sometimes I catch myself thinking this. Today, I came across this little tidbit from a post by Mars Hill Church's website, and I snapped back into reality.

"Singleness is the perfect time to practice getting to know who you are in Christ so you can bring your very best to a relationship, marriage, and parenthood. Marriage is not an identity. It defines our relationship status, not who we are. We are cherished daughters of the heavenly Father—that is our identity. He loves us and desires a relationship with us. He pursues us to no end. He wants us. No matter how amazing our future husbands will be, Jesus will always love us even more—that’s really amazing. Instead of the ultimate pursuit of dating, let’s strive for the ultimate pursuit: Jesus." (Mars Hill Church)

Any Thoughts?

10 Things You Should Never Say to Singles

            Alright Fellow Single Gals, we've all heard them, and we're all slightly annoyed by them. To all you non-single folks, consider this a little bit of friendly advice. Here is "10 Things that You Should Never Say to Singles."

(**Please note that this is meant to be humorous, I'm not trying to offend anyone**).

1. So, why aren't you married?

Don't ask us that - we don't have the answer. If we did know the answer then we'd be busy trying to work through whatever it was so we could join the ranks with you married folks.

2. Oh, don't worry, your time will come.

My time for what will come? Have I not been living fully until I have that "special someone"?

3. Maybe God's trying to fix something in you before He sends you a husband.

Yes. You're right, because only perfect people get married. Stop trying to fix me, I'm not broken! Marriage is not a prize that one gets after learning everything that God needs to teach you.

4. It will happen when you least expect it.

The problem with that is....if you're single and actively looking, you are always kind of expecting it.

5. If you did/said/wore [fill in the blank] then you'd find a husband.

You're oversimplifying and you're asking us to become someone that we're not.

6. Have you tried online dating?

This is not the cure-all you think it is. Yes, it works out for some people, but it's just not my thing.

7. Have you tried putting yourself out there?

Oh. What? You mean I can't meet someone sitting in my living room watching infomercials all night long? Insightful.

8. There are plenty of fish in the sea.

Thank you for pointing out that there are tons of people that are uninterested in me.

9. Don't you want to get married and have children?

Just because I'm content in my singleness, doesn't mean I have no desire for marriage or children. Yes, I do want to get married one day, but there's really nothing I can do to make that happen right now.

10. Let me introduce you to my brother/son/cousin/nephew/co-worker/personal trainer/mechanic/lawyer/ butcher/parole officer, etc.

Single person A + Single Person B = Match made in Heaven? Just because we're single does not mean that you can try to fix us up with every other single person you know - I'd like to believe that you would set me up with someone because our personalities would compliment each other.


Do you have any that should be added to the list? Any "single" statements that get on your nerves?

Ten Days of Prayer

        Don't you just love surfing the internet? You're not looking for anything specific, then you come across little gems of wisdom! That was my day today! I came across this wonderful list that I thought I would pass onto my fellow single gals (and you married ones too!).

1.Pray for his relationship with God.

2. Pray that God would bless him.

3. Pray that God would lead him to become the spiritual leader of your (one day) household.

4. Pray that he will love you deeply.

5. Pray that he would have a heart for his children.

6. Pray that he would make wise choices.

7. Pray for his physical, mental and emotional health.

8. Pray that he would be able to resist sexual temptation.

9. Pray that he would prosper at work.

10. Pray that you will show him respect, grace and kindness.

         

         What I think I'm going to do is pray for one of these things each day, then I'll have 10 days of specific prayers for my future Mr.

Any thoughts? 

My Love Story

Hello Friends!


          I have this group on my Facebook called Women after God that posts blog posts, pictures, sayings - you get the idea. Anyways, I saw this picture that they posted recently, and it really made me think....

          I may not have dating experience, but I DO have a love story of my own. In fact, I was shown the greatest, most romantic act of love that this world has ever seen. I am loved so much, that He performed the ultimate sacrifice on my behalf - He died for me.